The pink Valentine clutter has not yet completely abandoned the shelves of retailers, as we’re just three days past the feast of the most well-known of unknown saints, and yet today we put on ashes and the purple of Lent. Whether by chance or design St. Valentine’s Day and Ash Wednesday often find themselves in close proximity. A few years ago when the two apparently contrary feasts occupied the same day, I saw a post on a certain social media network (which I refuse to name, as I have since renounced it and all its works and empty promises) that caused me to stop and think about the connection between the two.

Fr. Goyo Hildalgo was the author of the post in question. He wrote: “This year nothing says happy Valentine’s Day like taking your date to get your ashes in church and reminding each other that one day you are both going to die.”  Romantic, no? Fr. was alluding to the fact that the convergence of Valentine’s Day and Ash Wednesday had some people caught in a conflict of bright pink hearts vs. deep purple and cinders.

     But is there a conflict, really? The coincidence of these two days should not be a problem for us if we hold to the Faith As Handed Down To Us.  The Valentine’s Day promoted by retailers and other secular sources, after all, started out as the Feast of St. Valentine, who was a 3rd century Christian martyr. Not only do both observances spring from the same Christian tradition, they actually complement each other in a way that is particularly relevant to our current situation.

“Remember that you are dust . . .”

     Let’s start with Ash Wednesday, which marks the beginning of the great penitential season of Lent. It’s name comes, naturally, from the imposition of ashes on the forehead, along with the admonition “remember, man, that you are dust, and unto dust you shall return”, or sometimes today something like “repent and believe the Gospel”.

    This reminder of our dusty origin is taken from Genesis 3:19, at which point the Lord is expelling Adam and Eve from the Garden of Eden after they have eaten, at Satan’ behest, from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. In our Ash Wednesday observances we have a concrete reminder that, through original sin and its effects, The Fall is still an operative reality in our lives.  The Fall destroyed the close relationship between humanity and God, which we see when Adam and Eve hide from their Creator in the Garden. It likewise creates division in the one-flesh union between the two of them: they now feel the need to hide their bodies from each other with clothes, since each now feels the greedy power of lust as a consequence of original sin, and perceives it in the other.

     Concupiscence is the theological term for the attraction to sin that is one of the consequences of Original Sin. Lust is by no means its only manifestation, but it has always been one of its most prominent features, and one which heavily overshadows our age. In fact, lust lies at the heart of virtually every major point on which the secular world, and the culture of dissent within the Church that is secularism’s close ally, takes issue with traditional Catholic moral teaching.  Lust permeates our popular culture.  It is not surprising, then, that as the Feast of St. Valentine has been gradually transformed into the bacchanalia known as Valentine’s Day (or sometimes simply “V” Day) it has become, more or less, a straightforward celebration of carnal desire.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her . . . (Eph 5:25-26)

    

 Carnality, however, was not the program of the real St. Valentine (as I detail in this past Sunday’s post, “St. Valentine, Patron of Agape”). The historic Valentine was put to death by the Romans, according to some accounts, for consecrating Christian marriages.  Now, the Romans married as much as anyone else, there was no crime in presiding over marriages per se.  The crime was in the consecrating of Christian marriages.  St. Valentine was a champion of marriage as raised to a sacrament by Jesus Christ.  He willingly sacrificed his own life for this understanding of marriage.

     It is here that we begin to see the convergence between the supposedly divergent observations of Ash Wednesday and St. Valentine’s Day.  On Ash Wednesday we are called to repent, to turn aside from concupiscence in all its forms and surrender ourselves to Christ.  The Christian marriage for which St. Valentine gave his life likewise calls us to turn aside from selfish lust, and, in imitation of Jesus, sacrifice ourselves for our spouse.  As St. Paul says:

. . . walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. (Eph 5:2-3)

Later he adds:

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her . . . (Eph 5:25-26)

Christian love consists in sacrificing oneself for the good of others, and a Christian expresses sexual love precisely by sacrificing oneself for one’s wife or husband within the sacramental covenant of marriage.  Most often this also includes sacrificing one’s own wants, desires, and comfort for the good of the children that result from the union.

     Let’s return for a moment to that first human marriage in the Garden of Eden. We saw how concupiscence is an impediment to love: love between the spouses, and love between the spouses and God.  Turning away from sin (i.e., repenting) is the only thing that makes true love possible. If we want true love, we must indeed “Repent and believe the Gospel”.

     This Ash Wednesday my date, as Fr. Goyo Hidalgo puts it, will be my lovely bride, my sweetheart of more years than I care to enumerate (along with at least one of our fair offspring).  We’re going to church and getting our ashes  .  .  .  that we might sanctify each other.

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